Someone asked me recently, ‘When will I know if I need to get help?’ I guess the very act of asking the question goes at least some way towards answering it. To put it another way, if you feel you need help, what’s stopping you from asking for it? Often we can leave it as long as we possibly can – until we feel really desperate – because of that fear of asking, that fear of facing our feelings. You might have tried talking to family and friends, or you might feel that letting them know how you truly feel is too much of a burden. You might be noticing how it’s affecting your life: in your eating, drinking or drug-taking; at work or in relationships; maybe in recognising you’re not getting to where you want to be in life. I believe if you are noticing this resonates with your experience, if you are asking yourself these questions, it is a good idea to consult a counselor or other mental health professional. Seeking help is a sign of strength. Don’t wait until you are desperate. You might also find that speaking with others who have been in therapy can provide useful information.