Moving away from blame to understanding

in our society, parents are constantly being presented with endless, conflicting half-formed pseudo-theories about how they should be bringing up their children. For many feeling that they are doing a good enough job, with the weight of all this information bearing down on them, can feel impossible. Lying behind these theories is the unthinking assumption that there is something wrong with children: that these products of “Broken Britain” are somehow worse than previous generations; that they have been damaged by social change, technological upheaval and ignorant parenting. Thinking about all of this, I was struck by how prevalent, and easy, it is to fall into blaming: blaming the parents, blaming technology/society, or the children themselves. How much harder it is to try to understand individuals, in all their complexity and confusion.

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