Thinking about loss and how we grieve reminded me of how prescriptive we can be about what is such an individual, complicated process. Although it can be useful to understand different phases or stages of grieving – it can help to normalise an overwhelming, confusing and frightening experience – it can also make us feel there is some ‘right’ way to feel. It is vital that we consider each person’s unique experience of grief. Some of us may have more support from family, friends, work etc. And some of us might be enduring additional losses, such as unemployment, illness, divorce etc. Sometimes a death dredges up grief from previous deaths. So, above all, we need to recognise how complex grief is and to be aware of how we are affected by it in ourselves and in others.