In counselling there usually comes a point when the going gets tough. You’ve come to deal with painful and difficult emotions and behaviour and you may well have been avoiding confronting these for a long time. And now you are facing them, and yourself, in the company of someone else. It’s only natural to feel dread; that ‘Oh no, here we go again’ sensation. There will be times when you may well feel pleased with yourself for being brave enough to face your demons and there will be times when you want to run as far away from them as you can. What will help you through is talking to your therapist or counsellor about it, and working on accepting that it is part of the process. If you choose instead to flee in the face of your fear, you run the risk of confirming to yourself at a deep level that your fear is too huge and powerful to ever be understood or conquered. Sticking with it, trusting in yourself and your counsellor, is tough but it allows for the possibility of reperation, of change.