I’ve been thinking about what it takes to feel ok about yourself. I know that this seemingly simple task can feel impossible, and that feeling bad about yourself can cause immense suffering and even annihilation. So what does it take to feel ok about yourself? I believe that we need to understand our selves, our relationships – ourselves in relationship with others, the world and, very importantly, with our inner sense of self – and to experience this understanding in a caring, trusting relationship with someone else. This someone else might be a friend or a lover, but often it needs to be a counsellor or therapist: someone who has the knowledge and compassion to understand how we get into the position of feeling bad about ourselves and the ability to help us find a way out of that place.